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Last week, Leonard Pitts Jr., winner of the 2004 Pulitzer Prize for commentary and a columnist for the Miami Herald, took organized religion to the woodshed.

He based his conclusions on statistical data that shows that the number of American people who call themselves Christian is 76 percent, down 10 percentage points since 1990. In that year, 8.2 percent (about 14 million) of us said “none” when asked to specify their religion. Last year, 15 percent (34 million) did!

“Some have suggested our loss of faith,” Pitts says, “is due to increased diversity, mobility and immigration. I’m sure there’s something to that, but I tend to think the most important cause is simpler: religion has become an ugly thing. Included in that ugliness is a seemingly endless cycle of scandal, controversy, hypocrisy, violence and TV preachers saying idiotic things.”

Never mind that Pitts ignores the secularism of the new millennium. Those of us who grew up in the ‘50s see a very different influence that moves us in a downward spiral. And victims we are becoming.

But, for the sake of argument, let’s agree with Pitts that organized religion could be doing a better job.

Jungian psychology urged us years ago to embrace our shadow individually. Collectively we can do the same with this, our “dark side.” Humility is the virtue which enables this acceptance. There’s nothing wrong with swallowing a little pride.

Moreover, Pitts may be right when he says “too often religion worships and serves that which has nothing to do with Him, worships money and serves politics, worships charisma and serves ego, worships intolerance and serves self.”

But, in an age when so many stand for nothing, faith in Jesus Christ demands that we know Him as the way and the truth and the life. And we find that in his eternal Word and his Presence in our sacraments.

I believe that we can never become defensive with writings which call us to task or chide us about our failures. We are all made of the same stuff. We are not gods in our own right. There is only One and everything about us needs to point to Him.

Our modern day popes have served us well with their thoughtful writings. In travels to the globe’s people they have shown us how to pray and hope.

I hope Mr. Pitts noted Pope Benedict’s broad influence when he came to our shores.

A parish’s church is God’s house and stands for what we believe in and how we become his people. May the respect we have for it help us to deal with our weaknesses and allow us to be brave enough to defend truth and life.

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The aging seminary professor was customarily stern, even if a champion in being able to share the deposit of the faith with the next generation. He was used to speaking intently, yet on this occasion he breathed a sigh of relief and seemed to cast aside his usual temperament.

With piercing eyes, he narrowed his gaze on the young men before him, paused, and calmly shared his own spiritual insight into God’s forgiveness and mercy.

“In the final analysis,” he said with deliberation, “don’t be afraid to err on the side of compassion.”

Thinking back to the timing of the particular class, the direction was that much more remarkable. The sacramental effects of the Second Vatican Council had not yet taken hold. We were still years ahead of a new emphasis with the sacrament of reconciliation that would see a judgmental-like, ritualized approach in individual confession replaced by a more scripturally and socially oriented, conversion-like experience of what it means to share in God’s redeeming love.

Gone would be the “laundry lists” and an excessive, unhealthy sense and associated fear of individual sinfulness. Yet to come would be the more wholesome approach that would see redemption much more tied to God’s prerogative and gift. Humanity’s responsibility and cooperation with divine grace would focus more on an ongoing and pervasive choice of God’s ways or not, with a revived consciousness of community impact.

But the time was still 1962 and memories abounded of a harsher experience. Years later, we would laugh about a more innocent time. Do you remember the confession lines and how the longest usually indicated who the church militant were in truly trying to avoid becoming the church suffering? Even then we knew who the compassionate confessors were.

“The Lord’s way was to welcome sinners,” the prof recounted, undoubtedly realizing his own human weakness. Jesus did just that, I thought. His intent was clear from his behavior and the parables he preached.

Mary Magdalen, the prodigal son, the lost sheep and the good thief will always be examples for sinful people who wander from the fold but have enough sense to eventually turn back to God’s redeeming hand. Not so the attitudinally pure: the scribes, the pharisees and an older brother of the prodigal who forever typifies the real danger that a religiously haughty lifestyle represents.

“The amount of sinfulness ... the number of years ... it doesn’t make any difference ... as long as the sinner has returned.”

Years later I would be amazed at the workings of the Lord in the conversion experience. Some people, 30 years and more, would return for reconciliation. As a confessor myself, I would only count my participation in the event as a blessing and sharing in God’s mercy.

I suppose the class I have referred to had that effect on more than just myself. “Whatever you do, be kind ...” is a recollection that many of my classmates still talk about. The old prof is gone, as are the long lines, but his spirit still lives, a spirit that is as real as Jesus’ own intent in dying on a cross.

“Imagine standing on the doorstep to eternity and discovering that your judgment of people has been more severe than God’s.” How often our greatest failure as individuals is just that.

Years before we would rightly emphasize God’s constant love for us and change our sacramental training of the young with motivational approaches of love rather than fear, a graying priest saw it all.

A meditative spirit does wonders at times in remembering the best of the past. Maybe this is the Lent the Lord will use in bringing more of us home through reconciliation ... One priest’s dream had more of an impact than he ever realized; it was also his finest hour.

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Lent will forever hold a special memory for me since the tragic incident that Ash Wednesday long ago. It was a death that was unexpected and upsetting, yet in a singular way illustrates the meaning of those ancient words: “Remember, you are dust, and to dust you will return.”

Sister Ann Leo, O.P., was a brilliant woman, yet very unassuming. In a way that was characteristically hers, she gave of her musical genius to a generation of Gloucester Catholic High School students. Her patience and her humble dedication to the annual play distracted most observers from her stature.

I used to think, “I wonder how many of your students know the real genius that is yours. Your skill as a violinist and pianist. Do they know that you performed once at Carnegie Hall? Or that your doctorate in music was won at great cost in Berlin before the last Great War?”

No matter. Sister had known the accolades of the crowds and knew her happiest moments, even amid the pressures of curtain deadlines, would be spent in simple giving.

Sister Ann Leo’s background is indeed interesting. A native of the Midwest, she was not a Catholic when she launched a musical career. Her success as a European student was heralded by the now dubious distinction that she was chosen in the 1930s to be a violin soloist in a special concert for Hitler. She never spoke of such background accomplishments.

Returning to America, she allowed her scientific interests and abilities to dominate her career and was hired by the government to work on the famed Manhattan Project. After the war, she turned to teaching, and spent 10 years in the New York public school system.

While she was a teacher in New York, she heard a Dominican priest give a retreat and was attracted to the Catholic faith. After her conversion, she responded to the mystery which is part of every vocation and journeyed off to the Dominicans in Newburgh, N.Y., where as a middle-aged woman she entered the convent.

Sister Ann Leo’s first and only assignment was at St. Mary’s Convent in Gloucester. They were happy years.

I can still remember the first time I met her back in 1976. I had just been appointed principal and had heard briefly of her background and her contributions to Gloucester Catholic.

Sister often spent summers in the South teaching English grammar to the poor. Returning from one such visit, she was walking from the post office to the convent when I gave her a ride. Instantly, I appreciated her jovial disposition.

Although Sister was brilliant in her own right, like all of us she had her foibles. She was often oblivious to timing. And her writing was impossible to translate, at least to me.

Each morning, just seconds before announcements, I could count on her engaging me in conversation over a problem which would obviously require more than a superficial treatment. We usually did this as I made a desperate attempt to preview what I would be soon saying publicly to the whole school.

Although I often offered my time to talk later, she never seemed to realize the problem of these transactions. In a strange way, these aspects of her personality added color to my appreciation what she was to us.

Then the fateful day arrived. Other than the somber feeling of the new season of Lent, the day began quite normally. I said Mass for the sisters and remember noticing a special happiness on Sister Ann Leo’s face as I shared the Eucharist with her. Placing ashes on her forehead, I never realized how prophetic those words and symbol would be for her.

We had arranged a special Ash Wednesday liturgy for the students at the beginning of the school day. As I called the different levels to the gym for the service, I was aware that Sister was standing close behind me. On that occasion, however, she said nothing.

The student body was fully assembled when I passed the word along to begin the procession. I had just taken my first step when, out of the corner of my eye, I saw Sister apparently trip out of the bleachers. Since I was only a matter of feet from her, I rushed to her side.

It soon became evident to all of us who then tried to help that her situation was critical. In the minutes that followed, the entire school witnessed a Lenten lesson they will never forget. Administering the sacrament of the sick while teachers applied CPR, I felt stunned.

We never had our service that morning. While the ambulance came, the students were sent back to their homerooms. Their silence was a tribute of respect for a woman they knew cared for them.

After Dr. Kelly called to tell me of Sister’s fatal heart attack, I informed the sisters privately of the sad news. Next, I shared the fact of her death with the students she had always loved. All of us were left traumatized and a void suddenly entered our hearts.

School was dismissed for the rest of the day. Later that afternoon I took a drive in the country and thought back over the hours we had worked together.

I thought of her chorus and the outstanding concert she had given in St. Mary’s Church the previous December. I thought back to “Camelot” and “Birdie” and some of the memories associated with these plays.

On a day of special symbolism, it suddenly dawned on me that she had spent her last minutes on earth in the very gym where she had toiled for well over a decade.

Later, when it was easier to think of what had occurred with less pain, I smiled at the dramatic grand entrance she must have had as she met her Maker. The day, her smile, the sacraments received, the kids all present, and in the gym she loved — it was all too coincidental.

Oh, it was the roar of the greasepaint and the smell of the crowd all over again in a special way. For a very special religious woman had just had her opening night in heaven.

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Valentine’s Day seemed well positioned this year. It would be on the weekend — a suitable time for an older generation to revel in hearts, floral arrangements and testaments of love for their spouses and dearest relatives.

But don’t tell that to the fifth- and sixth-graders who came to school the day before bedecked in red and matching cupids. There was a sense of gaiety in the air as individual students described with great relish a day dedicated to Valentine cards, chocolates and floral bouquets.

“Surely, it’s more than that!” I said.

Gradually the responses started to talk of caring and reaching out. Remember the secret of the fox? “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly and what is essential is invisible to the eye!”

“What’s that mean?”

The children started to relate the power within to love and care for one’s neighbor. And to that degree the consumer’s holiday started to merge with a deeper meaning. Without love, there can be no cross. “God so loved the world that he sent his only-begotten Son...” Without death, there can be no resurrection. “Unless a grain of wheat falls to the ground...”

I recalled another Valentine event I celebrated at my first parish as pastor. It confirmed the curious interplay of love and sacrifice. Thirty-two couples came out to church to celebrate the parish’s observance of World Marriage Day and to renew their marriage vows. Despite a culture that cares little about the meaning of commitment, these people were about to re-state the love that is the basis of their sacramental life together.

“We are made by love and for love,” the couples successively prayed after each husband and wife had again taken each other “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” “We praise and thank you, Lord, for all we have shared through the years. We give ourselves to you today and ask you to nourish our love for you and each other all the days of our lives.”

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly...”

This was a Mass which could not be rushed. The moments were too tender and personal. The nervousness. The stated convictions of how one or the other didn’t deserve all that the other had given. The genuine tears. The conviction that grace is never cheap. With love comes the spirit of true sacrifice and growth.

It reminded me that every once in a while even Hollywood gets it right. Remember the movie Ghost? Just before Sam goes to heaven, he tells his former wife, “Gee, Molly, the love inside ... you take it with you!”

The sincerity was captivating. The beauty of committed love has a way of leaving a priest humbled and proud at the same time. “My dear friends, God has brought you together from the beginning and has helped you to grow. God has given you joys no other can give. God has given you the courage to bear your daily burdens, to be patient, loving and forgiving. Through God’s infinite care, your love for each other has deepened. May the Lord be with you now as you renew the vows which united you years ago.”

The day ended confirming the spirit of what true love is intended to be. Through a commitment to life-giving devotion we become the people God wants us to be. Through patience, forgiveness, and prayer we enable the best part of who we are to emerge.

“...what is essential is invisible to the eye!”

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I threw the birthday gift into a suitcase as I packed for a brief vacation. It was a film from a friend that was described as a “must-see.” But, as often happens in our fast paced culture, there just didn’t seem to be time.

“What’s the video about?” my friends asked.  “I haven’t the slightest idea,” I said, reaching down to review the movie’s jacket. “Something about an undersized kid who thinks he is playing a part in God’s universal plan and one day will be a hero.”

Still unmoved, the film sat there.

Finally, the last night of vacation, almost for want of something to do, we plopped the movie into the VCR, and agreed that any one of us could bail out if the movie turned out to be a dud. But none of us would move.

Actor Jim Carrey sets the stage. Standing before a church cemetery stone in a peaceful rural setting, he tells the world that Simon Birch, his best friend, is the reason why he now believes in God.

And who is Simon Birch?

He’s simply the smallest boy alive, a reject of a granite cutting father and a personality-deprived mother. He’s the miracle child, a person who shouldn’t have lived and who constantly reminds his stalwart companion, Joey Wentworth, another societal cast-off because of his illegitimacy, that he feels divinely called to do something special. And it is in the process of trying to discover that destiny that Simon Birch finds nothing but trouble.

As the two boys spin their way through the hilarious ... and sometimes tragic ... ups and downs that will forever bind them together, the viewer is uplifted and reminded, as the Little Prince’s fox  tells us, that “it is only with the heart that one can see rightly and what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

There’s the obsession the boys share in seeking out the identity of Joe’s father, a secret his beautiful mother has guarded Joe’s entire life. And there’s the complexity of life which is viewed in the ever-present kindness and defense Joe’s mom shows to Simon Birch — as compared to a sterile Sunday school teacher’s opinion that there’s not much more she can endure with the “granite mouse’s” antics.

Every once in a while Hollywood gets it right. In Ghost, Sam told Molly that “the love inside you — you take it with you!” And in Awakenings, Leonard Howe excitedly communicated to Dr. Sayer that “we’ve got to tell everybody, we’ve got to remind them, we’ve got to remind them how good it is.”

“How good what is, Leonard?” the doctor asks.

“Read the newspaper,” he urges. “It’s all bad ... all bad. People have forgotten what life is all about. They’ve forgotten what it is to be alive. They need to be reminded about what they have and what they can lose ... the joy of life, the gift of life, the freedom of life, the wonderment of life.”

And now in Simon Birch we are reminded how easily our culture judges people on the basis of appearance and misses in the process the inspirational power of love that all of us are capable of possessing.

A PG motion picture, indeed a sleeper of a production that most of us missed in the theater, shows us that God indeed has a plan for each of us in this new millennium. He doesn’t promise us that our lives will be always happy. But he does tell us they will be full and have purpose.

You’ll love Simon Birch, the movie and the person. Just bring your tissues with you as you discover anew what is best in us. 

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